EXO’s Baekhyun has been under some hot water regarding a statement he made to a fan at a recent fan meeting event back on December 30.
Baekhyun was comforting a fan during a fansign event, the fan talked about depression, but the way Baekhyun answered her divided both national and international fans.
Some hated the remarks he made while others questioned the intention of the fan who leaked her conversations with Baekhyun in pieces to the public.
Baekhyun had said this during the fan sign event,
“It appears that there are fans who experience depression as well. If I were to voice my opinion, I don’t know why people become ill with depression and insomnia.
I am not criticizing it. You might not be able to force a smile and always think good thoughts… but… you know how people around you who have good energy in your life? Like friends or others, you also have me.
So, I hope that you can always smile when you see me and the other EXO members. I hope that everyone will become happier. Hang in there everyone. Fighting.”
The idol also wished the fans a happy new year and encouraged them to smile more and not be as stressed.
Earlier, fans accounts and snippets of the voice recording were released and many took it out of context. Resulting in the huge backlash Baekhyun has been receiving today.
With Jonghyun’s recent suicide, fans didn’t like that Baekhyun was happily discussing the matter and speaking so insensitively about depression saying that he doesn’t know why people become depressed.
Fans pointed out that depression is not something you can control but its chemicals in the brain. They also attacked his ignorance on the subject.
Following the huge backlash, the idol released a long apology letter addressing the controversy, he said,
“Hello, this is BaekHyun. I want to apologize for my remarks at the fan signing site on December 30th.
I am actually very frightened about depression these days. I was so worried about it and I was afraid of it.
When I was speaking to that fan for a significant amount of time, I became worried and afraid. In the fan sign event that should’ve been filled with joy, I felt the gravity of what she said. I wanted to say comforting words while being rushed with the idea that I probably wouldn’t be able to see that fan again when we part ways today.
I wanted to be a source of strength to her since she said she liked me.
After I finished speaking to that fan, I kept thinking about it until the end of the fan signing session.
So, I felt extremely sorry for the fans who came to the fan signing event because while in the process of speaking, there was a part that was spoken casually and carelessly.
I was trying to comfort her saying that EXO and me are by her and fans side when they feel depressed or are going through difficult times.
I did not have the ability to put my mind together in a short time and deliver it correctly, I am regretful at the moment for why I chose those words and phrases. I just wanted to comfort and give strength but I am regretting it.
I am afraid that there is a mistake in this letter I am writing. But I really want to sincerely apologize. I apologize to the fans and I want to apologize to everyone who has been hurt by this.
In the future, I will become more cautious about my words and actions.”
안녕하세요 백현입니다. 12월 30일 팬사인회 현장에서 있었던 제 발언과 관련해 직접 사과를 드리고 싶어서 이렇게 글을 올립니다. 저는 사실 요즘 우울증에 대해 많이 겁이나 있고 과민한 상태였어요. 그런데 현장에서 그 팬분과 꽤 많은 이야기를 나누면서 너무 걱정이 됐고 덜컥 겁이 났어요. 제가 행복하게 해주고 싶은 팬이 즐거움으로 가득 차야 하는 팬사인회에서 저에게 털어놓은 이야기가 꽤 심각하게 느껴졌고, 이 팬과 오늘 이 자리에서 헤어지면 다시는 이야기를 나눌 수 없다는 생각에 마음이 많이 조급했던 것 같아요. 한 마디라도 더 위로하고 싶었고 저를 좋아한다고 했으니까 제 말이 힘이 될 수 있을 텐데라는 생각에 오늘 이 자리에서 빨리 어떻게든 해주고 싶었어요. 그 팬 분과 이야기 한 후 팬사인회가 끝날 때까지 그 생각에 빠져 있었던 것 같아요..그래서 그 팬분은 물론 현장에 오신 팬 분들께도 우울하고 힘든 일이 있어도 엑소는 물론 옆에 좋은 분들이 있으니 힘내시라는 말을 하는 과정에서, 경솔하게 말한 부분이 있었습니다. 제 마음을 짧은 시간에 잘 정리해서 전달할 수 있는 능력도 없으면서 섣부르게 말을 꺼냈어요. 제가 그 순간 왜 그런 말, 단어를 선택했는 지 후회됩니다. 정말 위로하고 힘을 내라고 하고 싶은 마음뿐이었는데.. 지금 이 글을 쓰고 있는 중에도 또 제 글에 실수가 있지는 않을까 두려워요. 하지만 진심으로 사과드리고 싶어요. 그 팬분께도 죄송하고 이 일로 인해 상처받은 모든 분들에게 죄송하다는 말씀 드리고 싶습니다. 앞으로는 말과 행동을 더욱 신중히 하는 백현이 되겠습니다.
Without naming names, there have been sites that worded the entire incident in the wrong way. We can hate on them but we need to also remember that the fans themselves who released the video and audio snippets had inconsistencies with their account of what happened as well.
The way he spoke, his tone and the entire atmosphere plays a role in how to perceive what he said, this is something I believe to be true to an extent.
With all honesty, people these days and especially Kpop fans are on the edge.
Depression, suicide, insomnia are serious topics that shouldn’t be laughed at or treated lightly, this I understand.
Was Baekyung choice of words wrong?
Yes, it was! It would be a lie if I said he chose the words correctly.
As an idol and someone who knew Jonghyun, the way he said it was wrong. Was he at fault there? To an extent… yes, he was!
He intended on encouraging the fan who spoke about her depression, in the process he tried to lightening up the mood by mentioning that he’ll always be there for her along with the EXO members.
You can check out the full audio of what he said from the link in the description.
People took it too far, if it was obvious that he wasn’t intentionally trying to mock this, I would, as well hate on him if he was doing that, because this is a serious matter.
What he was trying to do is to encourage and help the fan. Words failed him in the process and it came out the wrong way. The whole sentence was misinterpreted and made him out to be an insensitive monster who doesn’t care about depression.
I like the way Baekhyun apologized for the entire matter. He explained himself well to the public, he had to explain what was going on through his head.
Loyal followers know that Baekhyun is a goofy guy who likes making everyone smile and happy. I know that because I have watched a couple of his videos and variety show appearances.
People who don’t know him might misunderstand and honestly, we can’t blame them for that. But it should be explained to them logically, fans should explain what he meant, not defend the entire statement he made blindly, that’s wrong!
This is something I wanted to touch on and something I always touch on! Love your idol, defend them but not blindly when they make mistakes. Explain the best you can but also acknowledge that people make mistakes, your idols are human they also make mistakes.
Its not the end of the world if you admit that Baekhyun had the wrong choice of words to say to that fans….
It felt like so many people wanted to jump on that bandwagon and criticize him as if he’s an angel who would never make mistakes.
He screwed up, get over it y’all! That’s okay! he apologized, we all know well that he will probably be very careful with his choice of words.
Considering the long letter he posted, the way he expressed his thoughts, it feels like to me, that he will now choose his words better.
In his defense, EXO fans trended the hashtag: #WeLoveYouBaekhyun worldwide, more than 300,000 people were tweeting about it.
I loved the support he was receiving. I hope that this serves a lesson to him and all other idols, to be careful about their choice of words in front of their fans. It’s a critical and sensitive subject.
Let’s not torment him with negative comments and diss him, we all know how that affected Jonghyun. The answer is not in dissing him and making fun of his words, the answer is in educating him on the matter and choosing your words wisely.